If I wanted this to be something people followed like a knitting blog or something I should have a more interesting life.
A lot of things happened just in the last three weeks than in the last three months, when it does happen it comes down like a flash flood.
Finally sold the car, only got $200 for it but when I looked up the Blue Book value in good condition.. it's only worth $500. But that is now out of my hair, insurance is cancelled on it so saving twenty some dollars in the budget from that. When I called Geico to cancel the perky sounding girl on the other end asked why I was cancelling and I said 'I sold my car'. She congratulated me all happy and stuff... she continued on with information taking so I didn't get a chance to say, 'well not really'. sigh.
Work is still work, nothing to report there. Devon still has not been able to find a job, he's picking up the occasional work from a friend who does duct cleaning and gets some cash from that. He is becoming resolved that surviving is more important than finding a job right now and is making the most of the situation. Couch surfing with friends and since he got a small tent and sleeping bag, 'camping' off the beaten track while the weather is good. He is resourceful making the most of his situation. He hasn't given up on dreams of going to college and getting a job doing structural engineering. I don't see that in the near future though and realistically, he doesn't either but he has that as a goal still and I love him for that.
Amber... is hanging in there. This is some of the major stuff that has happened in the last week.
A week ago, she called me at work to tell me that the boys got out of the apartment and wandered down the street, one of them without a diaper. She was not negligent, anyone who's had boys knows they are escape artists in five seconds. There happened to be a cop driving by and picked them up as she was running down the street to flag him down and let him know they were gone. Amber has always been skinny, even when she was pregnant so when the cop saw her (this is from his report that was submitted) he profiled her as a tweaker. So therefore she was flagged as a druggie parent that ignored her kids while getting high. The boys were in the back seat of the cop car and they didn't believe that two year olds could unlock a door despite them wanting to play with every possible thing in the back of the car. Because of the cop thinking she was on drugs, Amber was told she had to submit to a drug pee test the next day, she said sure! I've been clean for 14 years, only way that would come back positive is if someone switched samples.
Lots more on that but fast forwarding... the boys were taken to a foster care facility called Polinski Center, so they are okay and being taken care of.
Last Tuesday they had a court hearing where all the lawyers involved (because every involved party had to have one, one for the boys, one each for Dan and Amber and one for CPS) and the social workers all agreed that as parents they had not failed, there was no abuse involved and further testing for the boys was going to be done for the boys on their development. As a family, they can visit the boys whenever they can, without supervision. One of the workers took the twins to WIC to pick up food coupons, she told Amber that she understands how they could have gotten out. They are almost like wild animals in their intense curiosity and activity looking for things to play with and manipulate. Point in Amber's favor there.
So they have another court date in three weeks, no one doubts they'll get the boys back then. She is working with with CPS and counselors to improve the situation and get the boys into some programs to help their development. They did some testing and found out they are very delayed in speech and cognitive skills I think. They've ruled out autism but will be doing a hearing test just to make sure that isn't part of the problem.
So. (deep breath).
That was a hellacious weekend. I am very proud of Amber for the way she's handled things. Three days after all that went down and she went to a meditation session and felt better for it. She has been able to spend more quality time with Ava, but things are a little rocky with Dan. More to be seen on what happens there.
Katie's mom is staying with us for a few weeks as she tries to separate herself from her verbally and mentally abusive husband. It's been decided she can't go back to her house where he is so... semi permanent housemate has been acquired.
Like I said, I don't write unless stuff happens.
Off to do laundry and get on with my day. Stuff happens, life goes on.
"To have a right to do a thing is not at all the same as to be right in doing it. " G.K. Chesterton 1874-1936
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